Many young people struggle with talking to their parents. Whether it’s about personal struggles, school, friends, or faith, it can sometimes feel like they just don’t understand. But Jehovah God has given parents an important role in guiding their children, and Scripture encourages open, respectful communication within the family (Ephesians 6:1-3; Proverbs 1:8-9). So how can you improve communication with your parents in a way that honors God and strengthens your relationship with them?
1. Show Honor and Respect
The Bible commands children to honor their parents (Exodus 20:12; Colossians 3:20). This doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything they say, but it does mean speaking to them with respect. Avoid raising your voice, rolling your eyes, or using harsh words. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” If you speak to your parents kindly and respectfully, they are more likely to listen.
2. Choose the Right Time
Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us that “to every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” If you want to have a serious discussion with your parents, avoid bringing it up when they are busy, stressed, or distracted. Instead, look for a time when they are more relaxed and can give you their full attention.
3. Listen to Their Perspective
Good communication isn’t just about talking—it’s also about listening. Proverbs 18:13 warns, “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.” Even if you don’t agree with your parents, listen to what they have to say. Try to understand their concerns and show that you value their wisdom.
4. Be Honest but Tactful
Ephesians 4:25 instructs Christians to “speak every man truth with his neighbor.” This applies to talking with your parents as well. If something is troubling you, be honest about it. However, honesty should always be paired with tact. Proverbs 16:24 states, “Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.” Choose your words carefully so they do not come across as disrespectful or confrontational.
5. Pray for Guidance
If you are nervous about talking to your parents, pray for wisdom and the right words to say. James 1:5 promises, “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” Asking Jehovah for help can give you the confidence and clarity you need to communicate effectively.
6. Be Patient and Persistent
Not every conversation will go the way you hope. Your parents might need time to process what you’re saying, or they might not respond the way you want. Galatians 6:9 encourages persistence: “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” If your parents don’t understand your perspective right away, continue showing respect, praying, and seeking ways to communicate better.
7. Seek Counsel When Needed
If you are facing a serious issue and feel that your parents are not listening, it may be wise to seek guidance from a mature Christian, such as a trusted elder or mentor. Proverbs 11:14 states, “Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” However, always strive to keep your parents involved and show them that you value their role in your life.
Conclusion
Talking to your parents may not always be easy, but by following biblical principles—showing respect, listening, being honest, praying, and being patient—you can improve your communication and build a stronger relationship with them. Jehovah has given parents the responsibility to guide their children, and He has also given young people the ability to speak with wisdom and grace (Proverbs 20:11). By applying these biblical principles, you can navigate conversations with your parents in a way that honors God and strengthens your family bond.
About the Author
EDWARD D. ANDREWS (AS in Criminal Justice, BS in Religion, MA in Biblical Studies, and MDiv in Theology) is CEO and President of Christian Publishing House. He has authored over 220 books. In addition, Andrews is the Chief Translator of the Updated American Standard Version (UASV).
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